sensation speaks

Do you speak the language of sensation?

Recently, after an evening of love making, I shared with my lover a moment from the experience and what I felt in my body.

He listened closely and with awe replied, “wow, that’s connected. I’ll never forget that moment now.”

Then he paused thoughtfully and continued “It’s interesting… I don’t know how to do that. How can I describe what I’m feeling?” (Men take note - it’s a beautiful thing to admit what you don’t know and ask to learn).

Before I began my meditation practice, I never thought to put words to the sensation in my body. I was so used to thinking about things, not feeling them.

But as I learned to put words to the subtle and complex experiences inside, I gained access to a whole new language. An intimate language that allows me to read & communicate what’s happening within me and between me & another.

Here’s what I shared with my lover about how he (and you) can do it too.

1. Right now tune into the sensation in your hands. Are they warm or cool? Light or heavy? Is the sensation in them pulsing, vibrating or still?

2. If you can’t feel anything in your hands, rub them along your body and notice if it’s rough or smooth, soft or hard, moist or dry. Those are sensations.

3. Next, feel into your mouth, your pelvis, your thighs, your feet… What sensations do you feel there?

4. Notice what happens as you pay attention to the sensation. Does it change, strengthen or fade?

5. For the next week, check in with one part of your body every day and name 3 sensations you feel. Think temperature (cold to hot), weight (light to heavy), motion (still, pulsing, buzzing etc). If you’re wanting to cultivate your mindful erotic, be sure to include your gen’t@ls.

Over time, as you discern and name the sensations, you’ll develop a fluid map of your body. One that’s always changing, but that you can refer to for insight beyond the thinking mind.

The body holds wisdom, sensations are how it speaks.