3 overrated Sex Acts

When people tell me they feel sex is overrated, I’m not surprised.

What makes an er0t¡c life truly gratifying is counterintuitive. And many of the things people aim for are vastly overrated.

Here are my top 3 overrated acts:

1. Climax. A friend once pointed out that aiming for climax is like sitting through a whole symphony waiting for the cymbals clash at the end. When we put all the focus on the final act, we miss the nuanced peaks & valleys of sensation that proceed it. Not to mention the anxieties of performance pressure it creates on both sides.

Mindful er0ticism is about being goalessly present for the WHOLE ride. There are exquisite worlds waiting to be explored that the rush for climax misses. Try giving it up for a while and see what else you discover.

2. 69. People think more is better. It’s not. Trying to give & receive at the same time likely means you don’t fully feel or enjoy either.

Here we could heed Zen Master Maezumi Roshi’s instructions “when sitting, just sit”. Relax into the full pleasure of one position. Once you’re able to experience it with full embodied awareness, then consider adding on.

3. Squirting. There are few things as compelling as a juicy . But when you use a whole lot of speed & pressure to make it happen, you’re overstimulating a beautifully sensitive organ.

When the body is really ready to overflow, you don’t have to force it. Think of how wet your mouth gets in anticipation of an amazing meal. Then slow down and tease out her hunger.

What’s an overrated experience you’re ready to switch up?