Slow Down in SEX

There’s a reason slowing down in the erotic is hard. When we slow down, we have to feel the intensity of sensation present in our bodies.

We go fast to drive this intensity up and out - there’s a natural pull towards climax. Going fast also gets us drunk. It gets us out of our heads, it’s fun, even exhilarating. But in actuality it has us feel less.

Slow is electrifying. When we slow down and truly feel each stroke, lick, touch, it’s confronting. We might feel like we’re being electrocuted.

The practice is to expand our window of tolerance for deep, vulnerable sensation. How much sensation can you stay present to, without speeding up to drive it out?

Think of it as practice for staying conscious in intensity in other areas of life… without squashing, lashing out, or going unconscious in the face of it.

Once we learn to stay present with slow, we can really play with speed - whatever one is most resonant in the moment.

That’s mindful erotic artistry.