Acknowledging The Non Visible

You know, those things can be felt, even if not seen. Those words expressed, even when unspoken. The erotic lies in these invisible realms, in the world of electricity, feeling and sensation - realms that are easily discounted because they don’t make sense to a rational culture or a rational mind.

Most of us were taught to value what we can see and hear on the surface, the actions of “doing”. But we also know there is more to life than what’s on the surface. We can feel happy around someone who acts like a curmudgeon. And we’ve all been in the same room as (or in my case been) the person who smiles politely while oozing frustration and resentment.

The practice of the erotic is about getting beneath the surface, acknowledging what’s below there, and valuing it. You could even say it’s about flipping conventional priorities on their head - placing worth in feeling over doing. Of course, doing has its place. But without feeling, it’s empty action. Just ask anyone who has tried a new sex “technique” without gratifying result. Or someone who has rearranged the circumstances of their life and relationships, only to find their internal landscape unchanged.

Daily, I ask myself and my clients, “what needs acknowledging in the invisible?”. And then practice bringing attention and curiosity to what is revealed there. Maybe your invisible has something to say too.